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Female perpetrators of domestic violence

'I am filled with so much anger and it has escalated to physical violence'

 'I ended up kicking him when he was in bed because of something he said'

'My situation is that I yell at my husband a lot...I yell a lot!'

Women using violence and abuse towards their partners

Women can be violent or abusive towards their partners too. Although it is generally acknowledged that the majority of domestic violence is perpetrated by men against women, it happens the other way round too.

The Respect Phoneline is available for women who have concerns about the way they behave towards their partners.

Women in heterosexual relationships

We have published a booklet to help women understand their situation better and, hopefully, make some changes towards a safer relationship. This booklet can be downloaded here.

You can also download our Managing Jealousy leaflet.

Women in same-sex relationships

We have produced a brief booklet for women in same-sex relationships who have been violent/abusive and need help. It can be downloaded here.

You can also download our Managing Jealousy leaflet. 

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  • Respect Phoneline: Confidential helpline offering advice, information and support to help you stop being violent and abusive to your partner

  • Call freephone 0808 802 4040 Monday-Friday 9am-5pm or email